Confessions of a Personal Shopper

THE SECRET TO TRUE LOVE IS WHEN YOU CAN VISUALIZE IT.

Hello Darlings,

I read this article today and I’m not sure if I buy into all of it or think that if he does all these 10 things he’s into me…

Just to keep you apprised, in the last 3 weeks I’ve been dating an English guy who lives in California. He moved here from New York 2 years ago and grew up outside London. And it’s not Graham! Alas, that’s a pitty. But it is another David! OMG, right! I started dating him to get off the Graham path and I thought it was a sign to focus locally. So I took that sign and now I find myself being into him but scared of the dating process because as we know from previous articles, I’m the 6 week girl. I date them for 6 weeks and decide if they’re in or they’re out! And right now he’s currently in London for the last 3 days until the 26th and I’m starting to question if he’s really into me!

So the article reads as follows:

Just because a guy doesn’t bring you flowers twice a week or serenade you by moonlight doesn’t mean that he’s not into you. These signs will let you know that he’s smitten. The clues to knowing if he’s genuinely into you aren’t the big, showy gestures you might think. So stop keeping score on flowers, gifts, and fancy dinners. Instead, pay attention to the little things, especially your potential boyfriend’s behavior both on dates and in between. Check out the following 10 signs that show your sweetie’s really into you.

1. He Calls for no Reason

If your guy’s really into you, he doesn’t wait five days after a date to call you. Instead, he calls you whenever he feels like it, even if it’s just to say hi and see how your day is going. If you’ve been dating a lot of players recently, this new, emotionally available behavior may seem startling. Don’t criticize or judge it. Instead, enjoy it!

Confessions #1:
So in the last 3 weeks, the longest he’s ever taken to get back to me could be a matter of minutes to a matter of 3 days. He says he’s not the type of guy that’s needy and so I don’t generally hear from him during the day unless it’s to make some plans for the evening. And he text more than calls. But he does call. However the ratio from call to text is more focused on text. Now when I was dating D-Mo and Mr. Pink Sneakers, these guys were always sending me a message just to say hello on a daily and this David does not. He might respond to something or reach out on his own on occassion, however he’s definitely not as proactive as I’d like and I attribute that to the fact that he’s 42 and never been married. I call that - Failure to Connect! In 42 years you haven’t met someone that you want to connect and commit to long term?! Instead, I noticed that he goes out with women who accept the bones he throws out rather than hold out for the filet mignon.

2. He Actively Seeks out your Company

Not only does your guy call if he’s really into you, but he also makes an effort to see you regularly. And it’s not just about having a hot date on Saturday night. When a guy genuinely likes you, he wants to spend time with you, regardless of what you do together. So if your cutie invites you to hang out and watch movies at his place, get coffee after work, or meet at the Laundromat on Sunday night so you can keep each other company while washing your clothes, chances are good that he’s into you. If you feel comfortable, reciprocate by seeking out his company.

Confessions #2: Ok , so the bloke does make an effort to spend time with me and always wants to know what my schedule looks like so that we can potentially do something. Before he left for London on Thursday, he called me on Sunday and asked me what my week looked like and we saw each other on Monday AND Tuesday. I was flattered that he made time for me and our Tuesday date was fun because we played tennis.

3. He Makes Time for you in his Life

Even in our overly scheduled modern-day lives, if a guy’s into you, he makes time for you. So if he calls to say he’s going away on a business trip for a few days but would like to see you before he goes, wants to talk while he’s away, or is intent on making plans once he returns, all signs point to the fact that he’s honestly into you. Make sure you make time for your man, regardless of your own busy schedule.

Confessions #3: So to add on to confession #2, when I dropped him off on Tuesday night he said, ” Ok, I’ll see you when I get back and won’t call you while I’m away.” And I said ok. And then he chuckled and said that he would call and just wanted to see my reaction. And then I said, “Well I did say ok, however if you don’t call while you’re away, don’t bother to call at all when you’re back.” And since he’s been gone since Thursday and our last communication before him leaving was Wed, I didn’t hear from him until Saturday afternoon and that’s because I reached out to him at 3am Friday morning, making it look like I was out late but really, I couldn’t sleep! And well since then I haven’t responded to his text because I’m truly disenchanted with his behavior. When he’s in town, he’s proactive and reaches out. However when he’s out of town, I’m out of site, out of mind…Now you tell me, does that show that he’s into me?! He did the out of site, out of mind thing too during 4th of July week as well and since I had only gone out on one date with him at that time, I just dismissed him as being a wencher. But his actions made up for it later in the week and so I gave him another chance and 2 more weeks and 4 dates later, I’m again questioning if he’s into me. But really the question should be, am I really into him?! And the answer is, while I really enjoy the time we spend together and everything seems to flow when we’re together, it’s what he does in between the times we see each other that I’m not so pleased with or question. He’s like Jekel and Hide; when he’s with me, he’s into the moment and when he’s not with me, he’s not with me When we saw each other last on Tuesday, I only got a luke warm sense that I’d see when he’s back but perhaps that’s just me thinking that he needs to say that we’re going to see each other that week rather than the fact that he just assumes that we will. I don’t know. This one is a confuses me.

4. His Friends know about You

Chances are, you’ve dated the kind of guy who showers you with attention and gifts and also chases you incessantly, but never introduces you to the other people in his life. While this behavior may be confusing, the truth is that when a guy is really into you, he includes you in his entire life. That means his friends know about you. And not just how hot or sexy you are, but how interesting, funny, and amazing you are. As time goes on, he not only tells his friends about you, but he introduces you to them and makes you a part of his inner circle. Show your appreciation by making an effort to get to know his friends.

Confessions #4: David has never mentioned to me that he’s told anyone about me. However, he does send me messages when he’s out with his friends be it a week day or week night so I’m assuming that his friend might know about me. We haven’t dated long enough to be introduced to any friends, but when we were both in LA last weekend to see our respective friends, he said any chance I’d run into you in LA and I said no, not unless you make firm plans with me. However I did know he was going to The Ivy that day so I could have made an appearance but didn’t. I was too busy having lunch, shopping and having with my girlfriends. So much fun!

5. He Takes the Time to get to know your Friends

Not only does a guy who’s into you share his friends with you, but he takes the time to get to know and appreciate your friends. And while a player might seize the opportunity to flirt with your girlfriends, a guy who’s really into you shows genuine interest in your gal pals while reserving his affection for you only. Let him know that you appreciate him by returning his affections.

Confessions #5: I don’t even know if we’ll get to this stage at this point. And by the way, my best friends and father know about this bloke. Do you think his family knows about me? Well I did put together a sun kit skincare package for him before he left and had it messengered to his office on Wednesday because I was concerned about his sun burn and I wanted to do something nice, thoughtful and considerate for him before he left as thanks for the great dates. And well I’m disappointed with his actions since he’s been gone. It’s caused me so much internal drama this weekend that I feel vulnerable.

6. He Maintains eye Contact

When you’re with your sweetie, a sure sign that he’s into you is his ability to comfortably make and maintain eye contact. If a guy has ulterior motives or just isn’t interested in who you really are, he won’t bother looking you in the eye. So if your cutie catches and keeps your gaze, smile and return his gaze, enjoying the fact that he’s really into you.

Confessions #6: Last week during dates 2 and 3, he was really into making eye contact with me. This week on Monday, it was 50/50 but that could also be the positioning of how we were seated at this long communal table. I did notice though, that when he went to the bathroom before the food came, he gave me a kiss on the cheek. That was unexpected and rather cute. Like he was marking his territory while off to the men’s room. That was actually date 4 and that was a really interesting date, because it went from being good to bad to good all in one night. It was bad because he told me about this horrifying story of this woman he was dating before he left NY and I was almost in tears when he was done with the story because he treated that woman terribly! That’s another blog in it of itself. However we also enjoyed spending so much time together that evening that we lost track of time and were out until 2:30am on a school night! So yes, at that point in time I do think he’s into me, however it’s not consistent enough. When we parted ways on Monday, I could tell that he didn’t want to say goodbye and that’s when I suggested that we hang out on Tuesday as well and even though he had a lot of work to do before leaving and didn’t want to promise, he pulled through and made it happen and I was happy to see he made the effort. I even sent him a note to say my thanks for making time for us to spend together before he left.

7. He Leans in when you’re Talking

Not only will your man maintain eye contact if he’s into you, but his body language will be equally telling. If he leans in when you talk, keeps his torso facing you, maintains eye contact, and doesn’t cross his arms and legs defensively, he’s showing you his emotional availability and interest through his body. Be sure to practice the same kind of physical communication with your own body language.

8. He Listens

If your potential boyfriend’s body language tells you that he’s into you, the next sign to look for is how well he listens and responds to you. Is the conversation always all about him or does he ask you questions, seek out your opinion, and genuinely seem interested in what you have to say? When a guy’s really into you, he not only makes you a part of the conversation, but he also asks for your input, listens intently, and responds appropriately. Let your love interest know that you’re interested by listening and responding to him, as well.

9. He Regularly Touches You

While a player may engage in inappropriate levels of PDA, a guy who’s really into you may be less demonstrative. However, that doesn’t mean he won’t touch you at all. In fact, if you’re dating someone who’s really into you, he’ll routinely touch your arm when he’s talking, stroke your back reassuringly, and hold your hand when the time is right. These displays of affection show respect, intimacy, and interest. If you feel comfortable, let him know you’re interested by gently touching him in a similar fashion from time to time.

10. He Takes an Interest in your Interests

A surefire way to know if your man sees a future with you is if he takes an interest in your interests. Even if it’s something that doesn’t appeal to him, like Pilates, painting, or your Portuguese language lessons, he’ll encourage you to pursue your interests and ask you about them. Be sure to return the favor and engage him about his own interests. So there you have it – ten surefire signs that the guy you’re dating is really into you. Once you educate yourself on the signals that matter, you’ll be better equipped to see and sift through the superficial players in your environment and then identify the genuine gems worth dating.

Hello Darlings -

This personal shopper has been spending quite a bit of time in the last 6 weeks thinking about a London boy she met 2 years ago. It all started in July 2007. G is an investment banker and the head of his group in London. He’s in his 30s, a really great guy - smart, single, and successful. Amidst all my dating drama I received a call from him on Saturday night during Memorial Day Weekend and I was surprised! It was 5am London time and 9pm California time and I couldn’t believe it when I saw “Mr. G” pop up on my caller id. I was on the bluetooth car phone with my best friend complaining about the crap dates that I’ve been on lately when all of a sudden I see my mobile ring and I flip out in excitement to my BF when I see it’s Mr. G! Our conversation took me from being sad to glad. And he was a great reminder that I should never settle for less than the man of my dreams…

Perhaps Estelle is onto something with her song “American Boy” but for this American Girl, it’s all about the London Boy!

Let me take you back to September 2007 when I was on my way to work with a personal shopping client in Dallas after seeing G in London while “on buisness.” Mixing business with pleasure? But of course!

The message goes something like this…

So now I’m on the plane to Dallas and I’m reading, once again, a Jane Green book about an English girl who meets an American guy on the internet and she flys out to LA to meet and stay with him for 2 weeks. So when she arrives, he picks her up at the airport in his Porsche (lot) and he cooks her dinner at home the first night because he thinks she’ll be tired. But I really knows its because he’s American and just wants to get her into bed! And so of course it happens and I couldn’t help but think of you when I read this!

“And then all our clothes come off and I’m watching him as he does things to me that no one has done before … This unbelievable feeling suddenly starts spreading throughout my whole body, and the next thing I know he’s lying on his back, inside me while I rock on top of him, and I’m screaming the whole house down. I don’t even know where the screaming is coming from, all I know is that it sounds guttural, animal, and I couldn’t stop it even if I wanted to. Which I don’t because this is so gooooood. Mmmmmmmmmm, this is so good.

I’ve never experienced anything so completely deliciously mind-blowing in my entire life. It was just so amazing.”

I couldn’t have put into words any better than this book did about what its like to be with you and what I actually said to you - your touch, kisses and the amazing feeling of having you next to me! Definitely my weakness! Oh G!!!

Just about half way through the book and wonder what the ending will be but if its anything like ours, I should write a book too!!! ;-).

Actually has the G & M story ended yet??? Or is it just a series of fun, flirty exchanges that at first are innocent with no expectation of anything passionate developing yet the attraction between the two is evident… She…always the one to break the ice…first arm in arm, then holding hands, then an arm around his shoulder while they sit at the bar, then he reciprocates with his hand on her bottom and he kisses the side of her temple and she reciprocates turning her head to kiss his temple - that was their first meeting.

And skipping along to their third meeting about 5 weeks since they parted ways at the tube station with merely 2 kisses and no embrace, it starts as an innocent drink on a Sunday night, then progressing to story telling sitting across from each other on different sofas at Henrys, then progressing to sharing the same sofa after the third drink. And mind you when the two of them ever share the same cushion, whether it be the sofa, the cab seat, or actually the space between them is less than 6 inches, sparks begin to fly and then fireworks proceed with soft passionate kisses and sensual embraces and the world becomes oblivious to them as their affection toward each other evident when they stroll down the street, enter the tube and then hop onto a cab.

And so it starts on that third meeting - the sharing of the sofa, the laughs and her hand not gently but firmly grasping his strong forearm. And being the savvy businessman that he is knows her smile and that grasp is his cue to take her hand as you see a grin of mischief pass his face for a moment then reality sets in, and the man in him thinks is this really appropriate and then boy in him says who cares, I’m having too much fun!

And while the hellos and time before they part are always so lovely, it always those good byes that she’s incredulous about. Because for the most part G is a gentlemen and respectful of M yet when they part, she’s always left in disbelief that she’s left to make her way home alone whether that be back into central London or back to the US for that matter… And when ever he does this, she just knows…it is what it is. A perfect but not so perfect or beautiful story of an English man and an American woman who are mildly attached to each other when together and even when miles apart and despite their efforts to detach from each other, there will always remain that sense of fun and excitement between them, an attraction and tension that becomes a fond memory after each rendez vous and quietly waits until their next encounter… Perhaps in Vegas… And sadly can’t progress into more because of the distance?

To be continued…

Since then G and I have kept in touch and I saw him in London again in December 2008. I was fine with the thought that we would just be friends but now I’m starting to wonder, “Could he be the one???” You tell me…

When he phone on Memorial Day Weekend, he said that he might be looking for another job because his company was being sold…and so I said in jest, “You should think about moving to California.” And he said, “I just might do that…and then I’d be bothering you every weekend.” And I said, “Oh really…that doesn’t sound so bad.” The idea that G would someday move to California never really dawned on me as a possibility. But today, I googled and found out that his company was indeed purchased by an American company headquarted in California! Could this be a sign??? Could this be the beginning of a relationship that I’ve always wanted with G???

Stay tuned for more from this excited personal shopper.

XOXO,
Your American Girl Personal Shopper Seeking Her London Boy Banker

Estelle’s American Boy revised to Confessions of a Personal Shopper’s London Boy-

Take me on a trip, I’d like to go some day
Take me to Milan, I’d love to see the UK.
I really want to come kick it with you.
You’ll be my London Boy

Can we get away this weekend?
Take me to a matinee.
Let’s go shopping baby then we’ll go to a café.
Let’s go on the tube.
Take me to your hood.
I never been to Knightsbridge and I’d like to see what’s good.
Dress in all your fancy clothes…
Walking that walk.
Talk that slick talk.
I’m liking this London Boy. London Boy.

Take me to Chicago, San Francisco Bay
Take me to New York, I’d love to see LA.
I really want to come kick it with you.
You’ll be my London Boy and I’ll be your American Girl

Hello Darlings,

I just attended a casting call for VH1’s Tough Love Season 2 and with all my dating troubles you’d think they would select me! Sadly, no call back yet and the girls that they liked on the spot got asked back for the next day. You know, this is my 5th casting call and I’ve never experienced anything like this before. It was the largest cattle call of ghetto girls I’ve ever seen. Usually I’m called in as the expert and for pilot TV shows that haven’t aired yet. So I know they really want me and they even fly me out to NY from LA. But this was a different story… it’s tough out there! I’ve met girls in past casting calls who really wanted to be on television. I just want to share my stories with everyone in the hopes that people will learn from them and become better people. Moreover, I spent 4 hours typing up my application! But guess what, you guys are the beneficiaries of my stories! It’s probably better that I didn’t get select anyway, because I’d rather be cast as a style guru and not as a dating catastrophy. And who wants to live in a house full of dramatic, trashy, ghetto girls anyway?!?!

What do you guys think? If you like my stories and really think they belong on TV, shoot VH1 an email or post a message on the Tough Love blog to check out Confessions of a Personal Shopper.

Stay tuned for the latest in the adventures of your personal shopper. On the upside, I did give out all my business cards tonight and even landed a potential client, so perhaps it wasn’t such a personal shopping bust after all. I may not have landed the man but I landed some business. So what’s new right? Always business and never personal. I’m actually pretty proud of myself because I hate networking but it seems that I made some new gal pals and met some interesting men at the bar. However didn’t meet anyone of interest. Alas, that’s my life as a jet – setting personal shopper. All talk and no man!

Oh and I’ll be going to Miami in two weeks to work with my gorgeous male client. He’s actually the type of guy I’d date. Gorgeous, mature, well-built, and “financially stable”! It’s a bit hard to concentrate and be professional when I’m working with him but it’s a must! I’ll be staying at the new W Hotel in South Beach. I’m sure I’ll have many men stories from that experience as I’ll be travelling alone and dressed to impress.

Take care, Darlings.

XO,
Your Wannabe Reality TV Personal Shopper

Good evening, Darlings.

Apparently we have bloggers that are really interested in reading about my dating memories and so here are more epiphanies.

In the last month, I’ve discovered my tolerance for dating d-bags has diminished drastically and here’s my take-away on this issue.
When you’re constantly looking for a relationship and wanting to be in one, you make compromises with yourself and will date the riff-raff. This tends to be most common in people that are not completely comfortable in their own skin. I also think it has to do with maturity.

Looking back on D-Mo (that’s short for his name) the D-Bag (that’s short for douche bag), I realized that when I met him, it was my birthday and I wanted to meet someone who I thought I could develop a relationship with and I thought I was ready and wanted to engage in a relationship. And rather than listening to myself in the very beginning when David was first pursing me like I was the next Ms. USA and as a result made me feel unattracted to him because he was starting to be needy and coming up with every excuse to see me like he was desperate, I told him to stop if he wanted to continue seeing me.

Basically I met him on a Friday night at my favorite hot spot in the city. I was sitting at the bar and minding my own business when I see this uber preppy Jewish guy walk up to the bar with a really powerful voice. He starts arguing with the bartender about how terrible the drink was and that he thought he should get another compted. Looking back, I can’t even believe I gave him time of day after behaving poorly toward the bartender. I could tell he was from the East Coast by his outfit and his very direct and offensive way of addressing people. But nonetheless, he came up to me and asked me a question and said, “If someone sent you sms from another seat on Virgin America, would you respond?” And I said, “Excuse me?” I didn’t quite understand the question - how could someone sms you from seat to seat? And he said, “Oh, never mind.” And I said, “No this is interesting, but I don’t understand how you can possibility sms from seat to seat on the plane?!” And so that’s how the conversation got started, simply because he engaged me with an interesting question.

Then I could see that he was interested and I always seem to think guys know it all when it comes to electronics but actually not all are technically inclined. But at the time, I wanted someone to help me purchase a video camera and so I asked the D-bag to go with me and I didn’t really think much of him because I was sort of using him. Funny how someone you’re just not that into gives you problems later on in letting go! And so he said yes to going to Best Buy with me but there was a catch, I had to pick him up because he didn’t have a car. Tell me, who in California doesn’t have a car? Like, what?! But whatever, I wanted a guy to deal with this for me and the funny thing is that he was just pretending to know about video cameras because he wanted to spend more time with me. He just wanted an opportunity to show me that he was an intelligent guy that could fix any issue. But that too changed over time…

Remember, Ladies, men or boys shall I say, always put their best foot forward and will do ANYTHING to get the girl or impress the girl and that is what David was trying to do. He was just trying to pin me down at lightening speed and here is how. So we quickly went to Best Buy in the morning because I knew he had to meet someone for lunch that afternoon. If you ask me, he had a date but he just wasn’t that into her because right after purchasing the video camera, he knew it was my birthday that evening and wanted to spend it with me. I’m like, “Really?” But we just met and I was thinking of taking a day trip to Vegas that day to treat myself and he even wanted to go to Vegas with me. Ridiculous. However, somehow David, the frugal dude that he is, dissuaded me from going to Vegas that day and he wanted to take me out that same Saturday night. And this dummy personal shopper said ok… What?! I’m asking myself why now especially since I know better than to accept a date last minute but that boy just had a way of selling ideas to me. He is after all in sales… And so I picked the boy up again and mind you ladies, this personal shopper is used to be treated like a lady and being picked up by a guy. I do like to drive however I hate being the chauffer! And so I went out with the D-bag that night and I was so embarrassed… Number one, because we were in a public place sitting on a sofa and he was putting his head on my chest at this upscale hotel bar. Completely inappropriate and everyone was looking at us. However the conversation was interesting and so I spent more of the evening with him. It was interesting that he didn’t really drink much except for one drink. Thinking back, he was probably just being cheap. And then we went for tea after. Who does that on a birthday?! But you see, I was trying to be flexible and give him the benefit of the doubt but forget it! I should have stopped there. However nevertheless I still continued to date him for a few more weeks.

The next day was Sunday and I was hanging out with one of girlfriends in the afternoon and then I get this text message say, “How’s the birthday girl? Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you and wanted to see what you were up to tonight.” I mean, come on. Seriously, that’s too aggressive and desperate. That’s not how you get a woman usually and I wasn’t really keen on seeing him that evening and so I said, “I’m planning on going to a movie tonight.” And he responded quickly, “Well if you want someone company, let me know.” And I didn’t really think much of it at the time since it was only a movie and it’s usually more fun to go with someone else. And so we went to the movie.

And OMG , the next day, I got so many text messages from him. I have to admit I liked the attention at the time, however when you’ve been out of a relationship for so long, spending lots of time with someone so quickly is not the way to go! David was starting to suffocate me especially when I got his third message of the day saying that he missed me! I’m like – what?! You just met me 3 days ago and have seen me everyday and you miss me!?!? Bizarre. I asked three random guys about his behavior and they all just laughed and said to dump him. I should have listened!

And then at 5:30pm he asked if I needed him to come over that Monday night to help me figure out how to work the video camera. And that’s when I snapped. It was too much. You tell me you miss me and you want to see me 3 days in a row. I told him to back off or else it would be over. And so we didn’t see each other that Monday night but saw each other Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and then on Friday and Saturday I was in DC for a client and then on Sunday, we met again. So much for keeping my space. But oddly enough, David is a creature that needs his space so why was he being so needy? I think he thought I was the one because in one week after seeing my apartment and my millions of clothes and closets, he went from thinking that we would need a 3-bedroom if we were living together to needing a 4-bedroom. That’s right, after one week he was thinking we should live together. Ridiculous! Can you imagine a cheap guy with a personal shopper. The two don’t seem to mix well!

And so that’s all I can say for tonight. In recapping this story from 6 months ago, I can’t even believe the person who I was. There were so many signs from the start that he was the wrong one for me but I chose to ignore them because I enjoyed all the attention, until 2 weeks after meeting, he became fickle and blew like the wind. One day he was so into me and the next day he ignored me. And just like that, here today, gone tomorrow. And you have absolutely no idea how much pain I went through the day he chose to ignore me when he promised to call me to discuss what had happened the day before. All he cared about was himself and while I was starting to fall in love with him, he became a D-bag. Funny how that happens, huh?

I’ll continue the story another night. Night, night Darlings! I wish I could just meet a normal guy…who is tall, attractive, successful and adores me! Is that too much to ask for?!

XO,
Your Smarter Personal Shopper

Hello Darlings,

Sorry I’ve been out of touch…things have been a bit chaotic in the office. A few people got laid off and all of us have been scrambling to take over all those other responsibilities. But my gosh, do I have so many stories to tell you!

First let’s discuss fashion! If you don’t already know, so many sales went public in the beginning of June offering amazing discounts from 30 - 40% off. I was shopping on Rodeo in Beverly Hills in LA two weeks ago and I was like a kid in a candy store. The Gucci’s I’ve been lusting after are 40% at Gucci. This adorable Prada tote was just over $1000 and now $600 at Prada! It was perfect for travel and I recommended it to one of my clients. That’s the great thing about this job, if you can’t buy it for yourself, you can recommend it to one of your clients! The designer shoe sale at Saks just broke. Along with sales at Neimans and Barneys. It was the perfect afternoon with my girlfriend! First we had brunch and then went shopping all afternoon and then we had dinner at the Grove and did more shopping! It’s a personal shopper’s dream day! How many women do you know can shop all day and say that’s market research and work?! That’s right, only personal shoppers can say that!

Sadly, Ladies, with all the sales going on I ended up purchasing a Louis Vuitton Blue Alma bag. I’ve been obsessing about it! And if you want something bad enough, I always believe you’ll get it eventually!

More Memoires of a Personal Shopper later. You’re going to love these stories so stay tuned!

And no, no word from Alex and you know what, it’s really ok. Life moves on and it’s best to always live in the moment and work toward furture goals. However honestly, it’s hard to remain optimistic after going on one bad date after another. I feel like Charlotte in Sex In The City saying,” I’m tired! When is he coming already!?” I’m searching for my Mr. Big but does he really exist? New Yorkers are elitest and Angelinos are flaky, and everything in between both coasts of the US doesn’t exist in my world! Oh dear, perhaps it’s time to let go of the fantasies and start living in reality? Of course not! My life is too fabulous for that! So stay tuned for more stories…There are more boys to discuss.

And please do forgive me for being out of touch but personal shoppers need a break too. Whether it’s a break from working or a lucky break in business, everyone needs a break! Personal Shoppers are no different.

Hugs and Kisses,

Your MIA Personal Shopper

P.S. - Many of you have been asking how I became a personal shopper and I have to tell you, the first thing I did was get training at the Sterling Style Academy. I have a natural talent for shopping but at the Sterling Style Academy, they teach you the scientific aspects of style so that you sound more credibile. And Michelle T. Sterling, the Excutive Director, has been a great mentor to me. She’s a shopaholic just like me and she actually produced a video called, “True Confessions of a Shopaholic.” So check it out. Apparently, there is a lot of confessing in the personal shopping industry!

Not all of us can be as fabulous and lucky as Rachel Zoe.   She’s my idol!  But I think my life is pretty fabulous and I’ve created it to be the life I’d like to lead…the only thing missing is my fabulous guy. We can’t have it all can we? Actually, Rachel Zoe has it all. The second season of The Zoe Project will be starting this year and I can’t wait to learn more banana tips and tricks to achieve even more fabulosity! 

So with Michelle T. Sterling as my mentor and Rachel Zoe as my idol, I die.

Hello Darlings –

Greetings from your personal shopper. Sorry I’ve been MIA; just like a man and unfortunately I don’t really have any juicy stories. This personal shopper just worked with a client over Mother’s Day weekend and that was fun but a long day! The client lives in Washington DC so I flew across the country to see her. Hung out in Georgetown during the day on Saturday and witnessed some great people watching at the Peacock Café. I forgot how uber preppy DC was yet at the same time it’s gotten pretty cosmopolitan. For a split second I thought about moving there since the guys at the cafe were so cute and East Coast sporty but when I saw the whales on pants (aka. novelty print), I reconsidered. That isn’t something that I see normally however it seemed normal for that place. But there is something so cute about a preppy boy as compared to the narcissistic or tree hugging men in California!

I met with my client on Mother’s Day so obviously she’s not a mother and I guess I was her Mother’s Day gift. I’ve worked with her several times in the last year and she’s my biggest client. And I have to say, her wardrobe is shaping up to look spectacular! In just a couple of years, I might like her wardrobe more than mine! Not! But I must say, she has fabu shoes and outfits!!! So bananas! I do have to admit, we do have some of the same pieces of clothing in our closet. However I don’t usually tend to buy the same things I like for myself for my clients. But she happens to like my taste! So what can I do? I flew home the same night after her consultation so that means that I woke up at 4:30am pacific time and went to sleep at 2am…LONG DAY! Nevertheless the client was happy. We spent the day mixing and matching her wardrobe so that she’s able to get dressed and pack for her work trips. We also determined her summer shopping list so I look forward to going shopping for her!!!

On the boy front, perhaps someone has finally heard or presented me with someone who I’ve been waiting to meet. I’m going out with a 6’5” English guy this weekend. He seems well-educated and business savvy so I’m excited.

Not much else going on except for the sales in the stores. Nordstroms is going on Half Yearly on May 20th. Saks is already on sale but the top-notch designer stuff isn’t on sale! Thank goodness for my wallet but so sad in a way.

Hope you all had a great Mother’s Day weekend.

Hugs and Kisses,
Your Personal Shopper

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